Foster Care Adoption
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Foster Adopt vs. Private Adoption

In most states foster parents who train to foster children ages 0-5 are to be willing to adopt the child if reunification with the birth family is not possible.  Usually, the state department of human services pays for the adoption legal fees and the child receives Medicaid until they are 18.  In some cases, depending on the child’s needs, a monthly subsidy is given to the adoptive family after the adoption.  This subsidy is based on the child’s emotional, developmental, mental and physical needs.  There are many other resources for adoptive families of these children that do not cost the foster adopt family any money.  As the child grows and other needs arise, the subsidy amount can be revised.

The downfall of foster adopt is that you simply do not get to choose a “perfect” newborn or other specifics.  You simply cannot control the factors involved.  Another downfall is that you never know until the adoption is final if you are ever going to be able to adopt.  States generally aim for reunification of families and this can be very painful for the foster adopt family.  This often means getting attached just to say goodbye in the end.   The “goodbye factor” is generally too painful for most people to consider.  In nearly 50% of foster care cases the child is reunified with their birth family.

 

Private adoption on the other hand can be handled in a number of ways.  A would be parent can use an agency to match them with a pregnant woman who would like to give her child up for adoption.  This enables would be parent to dictate criteria such as race.  Private adoptions can be very beneficial to both parties involved.  This way of adoption has less unknown factors than foster adopt and the plan is always to legally adopt in the end.  For most people this would be their choice.

The downfall of private adoption is that would be parents generally pay for all agency and/or legal fees involved.  At times would be parents may even be asked to pay for the birth mothers medical fees incurred during the pregnancy and birth of the child to be adopted.  The agency fees alone can cost more than $30,000.